It Is Not Okay to Pick Your Son’s Nose When He Has Just Woken Up
At least give him a few minutes. Seriously, Leanna.
It is, however, at times okay to pick your son’s nose even when he is protesting, because you are his mother and know best, and it will be a long time before he will be able to blow his nose. (Although, at two years old, he does know how to pick his nose already. He’s just not quite as good at it as you are).
Lately I have been thinking a lot about personal space. Mothers are notorious for not respecting their children’s personal space, in large part because, well, they literally came out of ours! Mothers often identify so much with their little ones that it is hard for us to remember, especially in the early years, that they are distinct beings with their own rights. And noses.
After all, how many times have you caught yourself saying, “Okay, time to change our diaper!”? Our diaper? Really? (Although, thanks perhaps to inadequate Kegel exercises, this day isn’t really so far away).
So where do we draw the line? I don’t think it’s okay to let little ones make all their own choices about their bodies – diapers do need to be changed and naps do need to be taken – but at the same time I can relate to not wanting someone else’s fingers up in my nasal cavities when I’m just drifting out of dreamland.
Then again, those fingers belong to the same person who has given up spot on the bed, her place at the kitchen table, and (frequently) her dignity sanity for me, so maybe the invasion of privacy goes both ways.
What are your thoughts? How do we respect our children’s personal space? What is age appropriate?